Dealing with Anger/Conflict

We all have conflict in relationships. Whether these conflicts are with our husband/wife, kids, other family, friends, church members, co-workers or boss, there are some steps we can take to improve the situation. Here are 8 suggestions for dealing with anger and 3 precautions about sharing your feelings with others.
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1) Accept Christ as your Savior – When you accept Christ as your Savior, you become a new creature. You put off the old man and put on the new man.
Ephesians 4:22-32
Colossians 3:8-17

2) Pray for the one who has made you angry. If you make an investment in a person, your heart changes toward them.
Matthew 5:43-48
(internal adjustment)

3) Look for opportunities to help that person. Your helpful attitude could change his/her heart toward you.
Proverbs 25:21-22
(external adjustment)

4) If you are angry about something someone is saying TO you or ABOUT you, examine yourself. Is there truth in what has been said? Are there changes you need to make in your life? In your attitude?

5) Look for gestures of reconciliation from the person. Make yourself approachable to that person. Be ready to accept reconciliation when it is offered.

6) Realize you cannot control that person’s behavior. You have to give it over to The Lord.

7) Confrontation may be necessary. During confrontation, you may want to consider ways to alleviate a tense situation.
a) Humor
b) A calming presence/someone you both trust
For example, if you find it necessary to confront your boss, an assistant manager might be a good person to have present.

8) Be ready to admit you could have misunderstood some things and even exacerbated some situations.
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Sharing feelings of anger with a third party:

1) Damages other person’s relationship with the person with whom you are angry

2) The other person tends to continue to bring up those feelings and prevent you from letting go of the anger.

3) Other person may continue to have harsh feelings toward the person even after you have reconciled

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